How to set boundaries
It’s not uncommon for boundaries to get blurry in the workplace—especially when you’re close to your colleagues or trying to make a good impression. But here’s the truth: just because you work with someone every day doesn't mean they’re entitled to overstep your limits.
Setting boundaries at work can feel awkward or intimidating, especially when it involves your boss or teammates. But it’s necessary—for your peace of mind, productivity, and overall well-being.
Here are some practical tips that have helped me set healthy boundaries in workspaces:
1. Have a Clear Boundary
Before expecting others to respect your boundaries, you need to be clear on what those boundaries are. Is it your time? Your space? Your personal life? Get specific about what makes you uncomfortable or overstretched, so you know when to speak up.
2. Be Polite, But Don’t Be Too Polite
Kindness is key—but people sometimes mistake excessive politeness for permission. You can communicate your boundaries respectfully without downplaying them. For example: “I won’t be able to respond to messages after work hours” is both polite and firm.
3. Don’t Always Say “It’s Okay” When It’s Not
Every time you agree to something you’re not okay with—whether it's working late or taking on extra tasks—you teach people that it's fine to cross the line. You don’t have to be confrontational, but don’t be afraid to say “No” or “I’m not available for that right now.”
4. Respect Other People's Boundaries Too
It’s a two-way street. If you expect your boundaries to be respected, you should also be mindful of others’. Pay attention to their cues, listen when they express discomfort, and create a work environment that feels safe for everyone.
5. Be Clear and Consistent
Don’t assume people will “get the hint.” State your boundaries clearly and stick to them. If you're not available for calls after a certain hour, or you need quiet time during focus hours, communicate it consistently. The more consistent you are, the easier it becomes for others to adjust.
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Boundaries aren’t walls—they’re bridges that help you protect your energy and show up as your best self. It’s not selfish to set them—it’s necessary.
